Im curious as to where the REAL men with REAL deal intentions are?
Are my expectations to high? It just seems to me that alot of the men out there are just looking to "hook up" for the short term (no offense to you men who ARE really serious about finding a partner). But Im feeling a little gun shy these days. Yeah Im outgoing but doesnt mean I just want to PUT out or be some kind of trophy girl...Im not the scarecrow I do have a brain!!!!if ya know what I mean lol.
Is my man on a steel horse really out there???
I refuse to give up hope that they are out there. What I have had to learn is to weed people out. Im a very upfront, blunt and honest woman. When I meet a man, I watch, listen and learn and make sure "He walks the talk". I may be a hard ass and hard to get to know, but Im no longer do the "trial and error" type dating with a '30 DAY REFUND OR EXHCHANGE' policy. I know what I want and if they dont, then move on down the road. Weed them out early!
I'm probably going to get shit for this but, I would say 90% of men cheat. Don't get me wrong I've seen some wild women too, but most women do it because they're neglected bottom line.
For me its like this I meet what iI thought was my perfect match. We love to go to bikeweek she dressed hot and had a fun time. After we were married the frist yr everything stop sex, dressing sexy going bikeweek everything that brough us togather stop. She became so religious that all was wrong. So you ladies tell me why I should look for anything but a good friend and riding buddy.
We're around, many of us have been hurt by that cheating girl of our dreams and we just aren't into games and lies. Some of us just want to find someone who will be there and love to love life. We exist, give us a try and you'll be surprised! GVG
well Im new to this site and hoping to gain a friend to grow with. Im not expecting to jump into anything right away besides growing with a friend makes the best relationships.
Ya, I have met a ladie that was all for going out and doing things with me...then she said that I wasn't attractive enough...well I'm a little gun shy looking for chicks on here as well and I think I will just wait it out and just maybe I will find a gal that maybe, just maybe, I will fit her bill.
Good Morning,
I have been on this site for awhile and am finding the same as you the other way around, the ladies that I have messaged are for the most part doing the same thing. I am one of the serious guys looking for ONE lady to build a relationship with that loves to ride. If your interested lets chat !! Have a great day
Terry
I totaly agree with u harleyprincess, as much as I would like to be in a relationship the last thing I need is to be burnt again, but I refuse to forget the smile of love no matter how many times it may have frowned on me. Steve
Well, sadly, maybe what some people must do is state what they DON'T want. Or what is not acceptable.
Britrider, I looked at your profile and for me it was very misleading. If you only want someone to ride with you to rallies, etc. and your wife is alright with that then maybe your best bet is to state that upfront. I believe most women would interpret it the way I did. I understand your need to get out and ride on the weekends. I work with students with autism and realize it is sometimes hard for both parents to get away together. I am not saying you need to disclose all that, but maybe just clarify things a bit more. Good luck to you.
I'd have to agree with Britrider. Some of the expectations are just a tad high. Demanding what can only be described as a "Hollywood Hunk" is a bit much unless you are a model for Victoria's Secret. Dating in the San Francisco Bay area is difficult at best. "Vegan PETA member seeks anti-war activist with a degree in poetry for good times". I don't think so.
Average guys like me can't seem to get a break. Yes, I have certain requirements, e.g. I like slim/petite women because I'm a slim person. I don't have much in the way of demands beyond that, though intelligence is rather important.
Oh, I'm not going to turn down a date with a Victoria's Secret model. I'm not an idiot.
Hi- Perhaps some of the "real" men are a little intimidated by some of the more ludicrous demands I've seen written under "my ideal match" by females. Must love my children, my dog, my cat, my squaredancing, my antiqueing, MY, MY, MY.
And GOD HELP YOU if you're a married man on this site! OK, so women have a right to set standards. Maybe some men don't WANT anything more than a good looking woman to ride behind him, or beside him, since his spouse either won't ride, don't ride, or CAN'T ride.
In my case, riding to a rally is the only freedom I ever experience, and it is always alone, as the spouse will not attend. Normally, I'm a stay-at-home Dad who is taking care of an autistic son with other disabilities.
So where's the harm in asking for a riding partner just for these events? I'm not looking for anything beyond that. But most women on this board ARE.
Real men and real women are everywhere. Problem is, since they aren't 'players', they are harder to spot.
Since they won't pounce just because you have a pretty face, lots of money or sex appeal, you can only get to know them one stage at a time. YOU have to make the effort first if want to find a real one.
Chances are, they won't try to drag you off to bed until some serious sparks are flying. Until that happens, you may misread their slow approach as being disinterested or 'gunshy'... but its actually just a REAL approach!
That's why they call it courting--the jury takes awhile to deliberate!
If you think there aren't any 'real' men around, maybe it's you who's not getting real... no offense, just a thought.
That is most of the reason I am on this site. It's the only one I have seen that you can chat with someone and get a basic idea about them before you meet. I do feel you need to meet someone in person before you really get an impression of them. That's one reason I am going on the ride to Eureka Springs AR. the end of this month. There will be what sounds like a great group from all over going to be there to meet in person. Check the TX group that has put it together. Every ones welcome to be there.
HP8,
I think part of my problem is I throw myself at a relationship to quickly, throw caution to the wind sort of speak. It is one area I lack patients. All I can do is look at myself and what needs to be different. I really can't not change someone else, so it's what I'm willing to do different. Anyways, I will keep trying, I do want to share my life with someone.
Spyder
Spyder, I'm so sorry to hear that, but wow!, to give up a bike to someone says alot. You put your whole heart into it. Obviously they weren't the right one, I've been there where I thought they were the right one, he lead me on in the beginning, oh...lets get a house together blah blah blah and this went on for about a year and he starting backing off once I came around to the idea of hooking up together. Well I think he was just into the friends with benefits thing. I discovered he couldn't back up his talk. He was all talk and no walk. Yes, my heart got torn, but it mended and I just chaulk it up to experience. I'm just kicking back now as far as looking for a relationship, I just go day by day doing my thing and if it hits me head on, then I will know I guess. I've stopped trying to figure it all out, but I haven't stopped trying to understand anyone that I may be with. Does that make sense??? Its weird, when I least look for love, opportunities come flyin'. Why is that guys, LOL. Anyway, Treat each new relationship like you've never been hurt before but keep the past experience in your back pocket like a reference book only as you need it so you don't get hurt un-necessarily again. Biker Love, T~
I divorced 13 years ago and the relationships I have gotten into I back off. I could give a number of reasons, LOL, I even offered one of my bikes thinking I was in it for the long run. I want to believe that there is someone who will change all that and I let go.
Anyways, I'm not sure that even makes sense, I think I will go for a ride.
Spyder
From what I have experienced is that men are just as gun shy about getting their hearts torn as we are. I've met some great men who we hit if off great and kept going running smooth and then they back off, I think they realize it could get serious and they are just too scared to get hurt. Then you have the players, you can spot them right off the bat. But as for the good ones, keep up with them if you meet one, don't let him get away, and with this, it will show them that your serious because there are just as many females players and users. Men need reassurance just like we do. Take the risk, step up to the plate and land a good one. My best, T~
